“Neurosis is a class of functional mental disorders involving distress but neither delusions nor hallucinations. (…) The term essentially describes an “invisible injury” and the resulting condition. — Wikipedia“
Yesterday was day #10 of my emotional eating cleanse. Right after I wrote on my blog, which got directed to my Facebook page, one of my best friends made a comment to my post: “I’m afraid you’re going to acquire some type of eating ‘neurosis’… be careful. Love you sooooo much.” And my answer to her was: “I’m already neurotic. What I’m doing with this cleanse is trying to take care of it. Love you.”
I don’t know why, but my friend’s comment bugged me more than it should have. It actually made me think about it all day long because she knocked on the door of my neurosis… and my neurosis answered. So I asked my other best friend, my mom, if she thought people could think I’m neurotic about foods by reading my posts, and my mom was very helpful by telling me that “No, because of course I’m going to be talking about foods, eating, etc since that’s the theme of my blog, so I shouldn’t worry about it.”
That made me feel better, but not entirely. And this is the reason: Yes, I AM neurotic about foods. EVERY EMOTIONAL EATER IS. Even though we don’t want to admit it, I’m sorry, WE ARE. Everything that we do is revolved around foods because we are constantly distressed about our feelings and we connect our emotions to our eating habits. Like Wikipedia describes, our injury is invisible… but we can still feel it… It is invisible to others, but for us, emotional eaters, it almost has a face… a face that we don’t like to see, can almost touch it, but can’t forget it.
And the way we deal with it our hurt and our fears is by EATING (and many times binging, depending on how hurt we feel) because foods make us feel better; it gives us comfort. Foods don’t talk back to us, don’t put us down, don’t argue, don’t raise their voices, don’t tell us what to do and what we’ve done wrong. Instead, eating is – for us, in our neurotic/crooked ways – from the time we think about eating until our last bite, is synonym of love and care… But then, from the last bite until the next bite we feel GUILTY for eating. We feel we have made the worst mistake of our lives, because we know that we will never be able to lose weight if we keep doing this to ourselves. But it doesn’t matter… our love for food is bigger than our love for ourselves.
So mom, I’m sorry, even though you are right, you are also wrong. That’s why I am a successful Health Coach: because I can relate to my client’s problems. This is why so many people fail to lose weight; not for lack of will power or because they are eating only junk foods, but because they first have to deal with their emotions. I help people learn to love themselves more than they love foods. How can you treat yourself well if you see yourself as your worst enemy?… When was the last time you saw someone treating their enemy well? Having said that, how can you treat yourself right and put your health first if you don’t love yourself?
The reason why I created this blog was to talk about foods, eating, and everything else related health. The reason why I’m writing the “30-day Cleanse” is to figure out how I deal with foods and how it influences my life since I’m an emotional eater, and hopefully I can have people apply some of the things I write about to their own lives, or at least fell better to know that they are not alone.
I’m as real as you can get. I struggle like every body else. And how can we stop or solve our problems and struggles if we don’t talk about them? I’ve been dealing with this for way too long and I’m determined to feel better now.
Before I say my good-bye for today, I want to share with you something that made me feel incredible yesterday! One of my biggest idols and writers, Mary Shomon, who is – in my point of view – the best author about thyroid problems, started following me on twitter yesterday!! Isn’t that amazing? I’m her biggest fan and she’s now following me on twitter…! Go figure! This is the type of thing that makes me think I may be doing something right. 😀
Well guys and gals, thank you very much again for sticking with me! Know that I’m here for you to connect to. Emotional eating is a subject that we are afraid to talk about, but only by talking about it we can make it better. You are not alone!
Gabi Brandao, your Health Coach.
Eminent Health – Choose To Be Healthy
October 3rd, 2013
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